Chad Harris, The Garden Gates, gaslighter
Chad Harris is a liar and thief, based on our experiences with him. Chad Harris has treated us monstrously. We have never been been told the truth by Chad Harris. We have kept every email from him as proof. Chad Harris has left behind open invoices that he promised by contract, and in writing, to pay. We never received payments. This is our perspective and opinion based on a series of profoundly negative encounters with Chad Harris. We’re entitled to it.
We believe Chad Harris fits the profile of a gaslighter. The irony is that the head the gaslighter uses to lie to us, is lying to him too. There is no separation and compartmentalization. One cannot lie to others and remain truthful with oneself. Eventually the gaslighter is lost in a web of lies which leads to losing touch with truth, God, and reality. Below is the analysis of the personality type by a Ph.D.
People who gaslight typically use the following techniques:
1. They tell blatant lies.
You know it’s an outright lie. Yet they are telling you this lie with a straight face. Why are they so blatant? Because they’re setting up a precedent. Once they tell you a huge lie, you’re not sure if anything they say is true. Keeping you unsteady and off-kilter is the goal.
2. They deny they ever said something, even though you have proof.
You know they said they would do something; you know you heard it. But they out and out deny it. It makes you start questioning your reality—maybe they never said that thing. And the more they do this, the more you question your reality and start accepting theirs.
3. They use what is near and dear to you as ammunition.
They know how important your kids are to you, and they know how important your identity is to you. So those may be one of the first things they attack. If you have kids, they tell you that you should not have had those children. They will tell you’d be a worthy person if only you didn’t have a long list of negative traits. They attack the foundation of your being.
4. They wear you down over time.
This is one of the insidious things about gaslighting—it is done gradually, over time. A lie here, a lie there, a snide comment every so often…and then it starts ramping up. Even the brightest, most self-aware people can be sucked into gaslighting—it is that effective. It’s the “frog in the frying pan” analogy: The heat is turned up slowly, so the frog never realizes what’s happening to it.
5. Their actions do not match their words.
When dealing with a person or entity that gaslights, look at what they are doing rather than what they are saying. What they are saying means nothing; it is just talk. What they are doing is the issue.
6. They throw in positive reinforcement to confuse you.
This person or entity that is cutting you down, telling you that you don’t have value, is now praising you for something you did. This adds an additional sense of uneasiness. You think, “Well maybe they aren’t so bad.” Yes, they are. This is a calculated attempt to keep you off-kilter—and again, to question your reality. Also look at what you were praised for; it is probably something that served the gaslighter.
7. They know confusion weakens people.
Gaslighters know that people like having a sense of stability and normalcy. Their goal is to uproot this and make you constantly question everything. And humans’ natural tendency is to look to the person or entity that will help you feel more stable—and that happens to be the gaslighter.
8. They project.
They are a drug user or a cheater, yet they are constantly accusing you of that. This is done so often that you start trying to defend yourself, and are distracted from the gaslighter’s own behavior.
9. They try to align people against you.
Gaslighters are masters at manipulating and finding the people they know will stand by them no matter what—and they use these people against you. They will make comments such as, “This person knows that you’re not right,” or “This person knows you’re useless too.” Keep in mind it does not mean that these people actually said these things. A gaslighter is a constant liar. When the gaslighter uses this tactic it makes you feel like you don’t know who to trust or turn to—and that leads you right back to the gaslighter. And that’s exactly what they want: Isolation gives them more control.
10. They tell you or others that you are crazy.
This is one of the most effective tools of the gaslighter, because it’s dismissive. The gaslighter knows if they question your sanity, people will not believe you when you tell them the gaslighter is abusive or out-of-control. It’s a master technique.
11. They tell you everyone else is a liar.
By telling you that everyone else (your family, the media) is a liar, it again makes you question your reality. You’ve never known someone with the audacity to do this, so they must be telling the truth, right? No. It’s a manipulation technique. It makes people turn to the gaslighter for the “correct” information—which isn’t correct information at all.
The more you are aware of these techniques, the quicker you can identify them and avoid falling into the gaslighter’s trap.
Click here, Yelp, for their most recent reviews.
“Beware – they charge your card immediately! I am in the middle of my bad experience. I ordered a table and 2 benches six weeks ago. They are made by Henri Studio. $1700 worth of merchandise, which as stated on the website’s fine print, was charged to my card immediately. Well, not only has the merchandise not shipped, I called today and it won’t for another 4-6. It’s a custom order, so I understand there can be a delay, but 1) Garden Gates has my money, 2) I had to call to get a status, 3) I can’t cancel the order because it is “In Process”. In Process for 3 months? Seriously? I could have ordered this from several other sites that do not have this charge immediately policy and would have if I had realized it at purchase date. Now that Garden Gate has my $s, they really have no incentive to push to get the merchandise processed/delivered in a timely manner.” – Original review – Tilla J. Atlanta GA. 4/16/2015
“I could not believe that it would take this long for my 3 item order so I contacted Henri Studio directly.My order was on hold pending payment. Turns out that Garden Gates is holding the money! Well, I immediately called my bank and disputed the charge. I will be placing the order through another partner company – I can’t directly, since I am an individual.” – Updated review Tilla J. Atlanta GA 4/17/2015
“This was the worst experience I have ever had with a vendor. I ordered a Joe Jr. from them which was stated to ship in 5 – 7 days. After two weeks, I gave them a call to inquire about the status of my Joe Jr. to which they told me there were delays getting the Joe Jr.’s from the warehouse. Ok. I understand that. Fast forward more than 2 months after I had ordered the unit and I still did not have my Joe Jr. nor were they able to give me an update on when I would receive it. Mind you, my credit card had been charged and I had not received 1 update the entire time. Every single time they said they would get back to me or call me back, they never did. I finally called and asked them cancel my order. They cancelled my order and decided to refund me the money via Paypal rather than just void the credit card transaction. Not sure why they did this, but when they did PayPal took 3% of the total. I told them about this and said that it was unfair for me to have to pay their credit card processing fee, since I never received the product. This has been the WORST experience I have ever had with a retailer. I would caution anyone with doing business with them. – Uri B. San Francisco 9/16/2014
“I contracted them to do a first planting on my yard and then maintenance every month. The work was poor and the maintenance (weeding, etc) was shoddy at best. I called them and told them about this and they said they would handle it and it would improve. It DID NOT. In March 2014 I decided to sever our relationship with them. When their truck pulled up, I told them that I no longer required their services and wanted to terminate my contract with them. They waved and took off, no words of apology or anything. They never came again. Months later ( it is now August 2014) I’m reviewing my credit card statement and noticed that they have been charging me every month since March and said I had to cancel in writing even though they had not sent anyone to do maintenance since March. I told them I wanted my money back regardless because they had not attempted to send anyone. The twenty something year old manager said he couldn’t give me my money back that the owner would have to decide. I asked him to call the manager. He refuses and was extremely rude. I got a letter a few days later officially canceling my contract but refusing money back. So, they charged me about $95 a month for six months and dud not even attempt to send anyone. To me this is fraudulent and criminal. NEVER let these people to maintenance on your yard, and certainly never give these crooks your credit card number!!!!! I have been working with Perrino’s since and they are wonderful!!! Garden Gates? More like Grey Gardens!!” – Wedon B. 8/10/2014
Below are a couple of the most recent Facebook reviews.
Allison Briede Badon reviewed The Garden Gates — April 24, 2017
I had (2) $50 gift cards from the Garden Gate store. Never received any communication in the marketing that stated that gift cards would no longer be accepted once the store closed. Called customer service several times when the cards did not work online. Each time a representative stated that they would look into this and get back with an answer. Not one representative called back. Waited over 2 weeks. Finally, called back for the third time and was told that my gift cards are no longer accepted. Asked if the gift cards could be reduced slightly but this was not allowed either. Guess $100 to a company is more than gaining a customer.
Jerry Chinn reviewed The Garden Gates — March 18, 2017
I ordered a $430 garden statue from GG’s online store. A few hours later, I found the exact same thing on another website for $100 less. I contacted GG customer service to cancel my order, and was told… “No need, we have a price match guarantee, and will credit you the difference.” Great, I thought. However, after several unreturned emails, phone messages and months later, I have not received any response or “price match” credit. Bad deal, rotten customer service!! I did receive the product I ordered and love it… Wish I could say the same for GG.
Aiden and Ashton Harris are the children of Chad and Beth Harris. They are the front for the organization now.”Aiden Harris is a junior at LSU Business School while Ashton Harris is a freshman studying Computer Science at LSU. Aiden and Ashton live together in Baton Rouge and work on their e-commerce business between classes.” They posted that here.
But we can see Chad and Beth hiding behind their kids if we know where to look.
Here’s Beth! Owner of a company that’s not in good standing. You Geaux Girl!
We see that Ashton Harris is listed as CTO of “The Garden Gates”. Chad is listed as a CTO too at Fikstd Marketing.
There’s Chad but both of those companies are NOT IN GOOD STANDING. Geaux team!
If it weren’t for Aiden there wouldn’t be any companies in good standing, it seems. Although it looks like he dropped the ball with Relish New Orleans. But as we were told on the Life on Plum site — he’s a busy person.
There’s Chad below in the Whois claiming to be the admin contact for the only company in good standing that the name “Harris” is associated with. He reports to Officer Aiden it seems who, by the way, if you’ll remember, manages to run this company between classes at LSU.